" I am so stressed-out!"

" I am so  stressed-out!"

“I am so stressed-out!" I've heard these words so numerous times that it seems to me it's a new way of chatting Hello, how are you? Hello, well, I am stressed, what can I do''. And there begins the story behind the stress. Does this approach feel familiar to you? How did we get then so out of balance, that our alternate word to relate to stress? And more importantly, how come we're so stressed-out that we can formerly see the stress in people's facial expressions, the way they walk on the road, in shops, in crowded places, or drive an auto, etc.?  Unfortunately, stress feeds on stress. The more stressed-out we are, the easier it's for the little effects not to bother us. Worrying does not impair your capability to think clearly and function productively, and that, in turn, does not add to your stress. In fact, we're so used to being stressed. We've come to not think about it because in a normal part of ourlife.we function somehow- stressed but we function.  However, stress isn't normal. It's normal to be in balance, and our body and mind seek this, that balance that creates a quiet facial expression, a relaxed  geste   in civic agglomerations, a kind of understanding, accepts what is, tolerance, empathy,etc.

What stresses us out?

At work

  • The long schedule that affects the work- life balance of several effects
  • Job instability
  • Low payment
  • Increasing work requirements
  • Unrealistic deadlines
  • Limited openings for growth, development or advancement
  • Challenging or difficult colleagues bosses
  • Too numerous meetings
  • Email overload
  • Incompetent or careless directors

The effects of stress can be seen on a physical, emotional and behavioral level


  • Muscle tension/ headaches
  • Sleep disturbances fatigue
  • Fast palpitation
  • Indigestion
  • Increased sweating
  • Prolonged/ frequent headaches
  • Dizziness/ Fainting
  • Difficulty breathing/ casket pain
  • Ongoing nausea/ bellyache
  • Restless sleep

Behavior :

  • Changes in appetite/ obsessive eating
  • Impatience, neglectfulness, Hyperactivity
  • Poor Productivity/ Low Energy
  • Avoiding situations /places
  • Changing sleep patterns
  • Increased consumption of alcohol, cigarettes and drugs
  • Irritability


  • Anxiety/ Sadness
  • Loss of sense of humor
  • Withdrawal/ Feeling of insulation
  • Low self- esteem
  • Feelings of guilt and shame
  • Extreme anger (overreaction)
  • Loss of libido
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How do you cope with stress? Are you walking on the sidewalk or on the edge of the cliff?

Let's take two situations: in the first case you are walking on the edge of a sidewalk and you lose your balance, the reaction is to recover quickly and you continue on your way without too many challenges because you know that you are walking on the same sidewalk and the road is relatively straight. In the second case, you also walk, this time on the edge of a cliff, and lose your balance, the reaction being panic to not fall and injure yourself, fear, etc.

It's you in both cases, what's the difference in reaction then?

Imagine that you are having an easy day and you feel good, and stress factors appear: you are stuck in traffic for example, you will react slightly irritated. But imagine that you have a miserable day and on top of that you are also stuck in traffic, don't you explode with nerves? The stressor is the same, only your reaction to it is different.

 How many good days do you have per week and how many days do you walk the edge?

And speaking of traffic, have you ever noticed the reaction of other participants in a traffic jam? Some are nervous, honking, others are eating or talking on the phone, others are simply thinking about something, maybe putting their thoughts in order: so we react differently to the same disturbing factor. How would you like to react? And how do you maintain this fragile balance?

You see, stress accumulates both in your emotions and in your body, the stressor is present either externally or already inside you in the form of behavioral patterns. And then how do you manage that?

How can you react better to stress?

Insecurity at work, family situations, traffic and environmental pollutants, bank installments, high prices, each adds a layer of stress. Now we also gather the uncertainty of tomorrow from many points of view. And as you face new and new stressors throughout the day, you begin to feel burdened, overwhelmed, frustrated, and become more sensitive to each additional stressor.

How important is it to reduce daily stress so that you don't end up completely overwhelmed?

Our bodies are bombarded with an onslaught of stress hormones and high blood pressure, it puts our bodies in an unpleasant state, affecting our health, heart, digestion, energy levels and more, leaving us exhausted.

It goes through several states until exhaustion is reached: the strong need for affirmation at work, the neglect of personal needs, the appearance of conflict situations either at home or at the office, denial/magnification of problems, changing behavior to survive this vicious circle, self-devaluation, the feeling of inner emptiness, depressive states, etc.

Burnout syndrome is not necessarily related to overtime at work, although it is an important factor, but to the chronic stress accumulated from dissatisfaction with the daily activity and from the feelings and emotions that the person has to deal with on a daily basis.

The difference between burnout and stress

Stress is the result of an acute, transient tension, while burnout is a continuous, permanent tension. Burnout can be: a long-term imbalance between demands and resources, so of a prolonged professional stress.

Do you feel disappointed?

Do you have difficulty concentrating?

Are you no longer finding satisfaction in your accomplishments?

Do you have trouble sleeping?

Are you irritable with clients or co-workers or even family?

Are you experiencing physical symptoms such as headaches or digestive problems?

 Well then, maybe you can find here some ideas for managing stress:

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Manage stress better:

  1. Prioritize yourself once in a while.

Work-life balance is about more than cutting down on work time. It's no use being at home at 5 pm if you're thinking all about the tasks at the office or worse, talking on the phone about the same problems. Build reset moments during the day, even at the office small 3-minute breaks can help you refresh yourself. Make sure you take vacations to really disconnect, vacations without laptops or phones about work.


  1. Set boundaries at home and at work.

It's important to manage unrealistic expectations for your time, efforts, and relationships. Learn to say no, to set some limits that help you have a balance in other words, see what works for your needs. At the same time, spend free time with your loved ones who can recharge your batteries.


  1. Get some exercise, preferably outdoors.

Nothing beats exercise to fight stress and feel better. Find the type of activity that works for you – it could be tennis, running, swimming, soccer, etc., walking in nature – build a routine and stick to it.

  1. Spend time with whom you enjoy. Maybe you have friends you haven't seen for a long time or maybe you haven't spent a long time with your family for a few hours without the daily problems, but just doing something together, a game, a walk, or maybe you spend more time playing with the pet, or maybe do an act of charity or volunteering.


  1. Talk to someone you trust.

Talking about what's bothering you can help you gain new perspective and highlight ways you can reduce stress in your life. Talk to a friend who can help you make positive changes in your work environment. Or turn to a specialist professional coach or psychologist

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